dimanche 9 mars 2014

47 - Take into Account the Primary Asymmetry...

Intimate relationship is never the priority in a masculine man's life and always the priority in a feminine woman's life.

If a man has a masculine sexual essence, then his priority is his mission, his direction toward greater release, freedom, and consciousness.

If a woman has a feminine sexual essence, then her priority is the flow of love in her life, including her relationship with a man whom she can totally trust, in body, emotion, mind, and spirit.

Man and woman must support each other in their priorities if the relationship is going to serve them both.

48 - You Are Responsible for the Growth in Intimacy...

There are masculine and feminine gifts in intimacy, and each gift comes with its own responsibility.

The direction of growth of a relationship is primarily the man's responsibility.

The energy of an intimacy pleasure, sexual flow, and vitality—is primarily the woman's responsibility.

A simplified way of saying this is that the man is responsible for the woman's depth of love, or openness of mood, and the woman is responsible for the man's "erection" or energy in the body.

49 - Insist on Practice and Growth...

Direction in life is a masculine priority, even in intimate relationship.

A less spiritually mature man may say to his woman, "My way or the highway!"

A man in the process of growing will often soften his direction and seek a compromise with his woman, playing Mr. Nice Guy.

But a superior man will not settle for less than the fullest incarnation of love of which he and his woman are capable. With compassion, he slices through all bullshit and demands authenticity and humor. It's as if he were saying to his woman, "The divine way or the highway!"

It's the same masculine insistence on direction that a weaker man will demand. But rather than wanting his woman to follow his personal direction, a superior man wants her to move in the direction that most serves her growth in love and happiness.

He will settle for nothing less.

50 - Restore Your Purpose in Solitude and with Other Men...

A man rediscovers and fine tunes his purpose in solitude, in challenging situations, and in the company of other men who won't settle for his bullshit.

But women strengthen their feminine radiance best in the company of other women in mutual celebration and play.

A man must arrange for both forms of restoration: his own solitude and men's gatherings, and his woman's time with other women.

51 - Practice Dissolving...

Like dissolving in the intensity of an orgasm, a man's greatest desire is to be utterly released.